“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.“
Dogs are the perfect example of this! Yes you read it right. Do you ever wonder that a dog is the only animal that doesn’t have to work for a Living? A hen has to lay eggs, a cow has to give milk, and a canary has to sing. But a dog makes his living by giving you nothing but love.
Follow this principles and you’ll be welcome anywhere.
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
Most people blunder through life trying to wigwag other people into becoming interested in them. Of course, it doesn’t work. People are more interested in themselves than others. – morning, noon and after dinner.
Remember that, One can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them. If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people – things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness.
If we want to make friends, greet people with animation and enthusiasm. When somebody calls you on the telephone use the same psychology. Say “Hello” in tones that bespeak how pleased YOU are to have the person call.
There is ancient Chinese proverb that goes like this.. “A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.”
Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds. Especially when that someone is under pressure from his bosses, his customers, his teachers or parents or children, a smile can help him realize that all is not hopeless – that there is joy in the world.
It enriches those who receive, without impoverishing those who give. It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None are so rich they can get along without it, and none so poor but are richer for its benefits. It creates happiness in the home, fosters goodwill in a business.
Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is no earthly good to anybody till it is given away.
3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Sometimes it is difficult to remember a name, particularly if it is hard to pronounce. Rather than even try to learn it, many people ignore it or call the person by an easy nickname. Make no mistake about it. Even though it is hard to remember some names, make it a practice to learn the names of as many people as you can.
The importance of remembering and using names is not just the prerogative of corporate executives and celebrities . It works for all of us.
The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others. The information we are imparting or the request we are making takes on a special importance when we approach the situation with the name of the individual. From the waitress to the senior executive, the name will work magic as we deal with others.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million people.
So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
People who talk only of themselves think only of themselves. such people are self centric and egoistic.
5. Talk in terms of other people’s interest
Talking in terms of the other person’s interests pays off for both parties.
You not only receive a different gratification from each person but that in general the gratification will be an enlargement of your life each time he speak to someone.
Talk to people about themselves, Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.
6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts is to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and recognize it sincerely. Little phrases such as “I’m sorry to trouble you,” “Would you are so kind,” “Won’t you please?” “Would you mind?” “Thank you” – have a profound impact on people’s lives.
If, for example, the waitress brings us mashed potatoes when you have ordered French fries, just say: “I’m sorry to trouble you, but I prefer French fries.” She’ll probably reply, “No trouble at all” and will be glad to change the potatoes, because you have shown respect for her.
Apply these ways into you lives while approaching people and you will have no problem making first good impression.
Hope you have good time reading these techniques.
Best luck !